Saturday, October 14, 2017

Happy Ten Years to Us

Hubby and I will have been together for ten years next month! How time flies. In typical honest fashion, I cannot say its been the most wonderful ten years of my life but I can honestly say that I am truly grateful. It hasn't been horrible either, at least not all of it. I met hubby for the first time in Uni, I was 18, sat next to him in FSLT 1 at faculty of Science in the Greeeat Ahmadu Bello University (yeah, once an ABUsite, always an ABUsite). Anyhu, as a normal chick , since we did not talk and there was nothing striking about him, I totally forgot all about him until he decided to follow me to the hostel some months later. In fact, I thought he was creepy and wondered why he was always staring at me and even forgot that we had ever met. I agreed to go out with him but lost interest because he was quite shy and honestly, I had more serious toasters that were more engaging, taking me out and buying suya for me and my room mates. By 200 levels I was ready to move on so when we resumed for the session, I blew him off and thought I was done with him. His then closest friend came to beg me afterwards and I went out with him again really because I felt sorry for him. I sat there and for the first time, I listened to him. I do not hear a word that he said but I realized that his baritone was so soothing and I loved the rumble in his chest when he spoke. I remember that I kept him talking just so I could enjoy the feel of his voice. But that was when I really started getting to know him and of course when I finally fell for him. I no go lie, we lasted for the sex. We just have a chemistry that sparked something in me. I still tell him so.

I think we both had decided we would enjoy each other while it lasted and just ended up together. At some point, he did tell me that he could not marry me because I wanted to be married after Uni and he used to joke that his wife was somewhere doing some guy and I would tell him my man was a virgin and I was looking forward to teach him "stuff". He never found that amusing. He wanted a much younger wife, he told me, a Christian woman who would teach his children about Christ. (Needless to say our first son just got exposed to Christ and I caught him googling about Jesus that used to kill hypocrites). I thought he was a little too "local" (I still do) and I decided he was Mr. Wrong when he told me how he would open shop for me. I also wanted a Muslim man but was afraid that the man would detest me if I asked for anything but missionary in bed. I wanted to be faithful and people under estimate sexual compatibility. I needed a freak like me and I guess I found one. It wasn't love at first sight, I had always thought that I would end up with an outgoing guy, a muslim, a more ajebutta kind of guy. My man is none of the above. He is intelligent, a leader, and most of all, at this point, I find his presence and persona comforting. I on the other hand was a cynical teenager, I had accepted from about the age of twelve, I was not the type of girl that romances happened to. I was plain, tom boyish, and anti social. I was not interested in being a whore nor was I saving myself for marriage. I just did what felt right. TBH I was a more mature teenager than I am an adult. Now, I am so conformist I shock myself and my family. I guess marriage does that to you.

In case you are wondering, this is preamble to the good, the bad, and the ugly Part II. I just want to set the background. My cousin thought that I shouldn't marry him because our religious differences would be an issue. My Mom did not like his Moms' low key way of making it clear that I was not their first choice. My Dad would like anybody I liked. My sister and confidant felt that I was too hot tempered and him too traditional for it to work. Our wedding took place a year and a half after the introduction and I surprised both of us and those who knew me when we did not call it off before the D - day, though there were many times that I almost did. I don't mean threatening cos I am not a good bluffer. I move swiftly before the other person has a chance to wrap their mind around what I was doing. I have changed so much that I barely recognize myself sometimes. I thought that it was my imagination but his people did not want it to work. His mom and sisters totally ignored me, and his brother was something else. I waited for hubby to call them to order but he didn't. I actually decided that they could all go to hell and when I stopped trying, I either did not notice them as much, or they realized that they were barking up the wrong tree and I won't say that they changed, but we have some respectable distance between us. So here goes the good, the bad, and the downright ugly, ten years on.

3 comments:

  1. Wow. Happy 10 years anniversary to you and your husband. I pray you make it happily to 50 years, and then you can be released, lol. Inter religious marriage is work sha. Great it's working well for your family. I've not even done one year in marriage so I can't say I feel your challenges. May God grant you the wisdom to navigate through it all.

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  2. Congrats sweetie :)

    Here's to the next 50 happy years together!!

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