Sunday, October 18, 2009

Saying I'm Sorry

I used to be a self help book junkie. I read every book I could find on money, relationships, marriage, sex, love, babies, pregnancy, etc, so tay suppose don write my own book now.

Hubby annoyed me yesterday and characteristically, I let him have it. Not going into what he did but will only say, its something I have been gently trying to curb as advised by all the self help gurus. The man just no wan change and I went crazy. It could be my hormones, I know being preggers makes everything seem much more serious that it really is. After I erupted, trust the guy he sits quietly and then I start feeling like I was over reacting. I decide to apologize when we get into bed. Was going to snuggle up, give him a hug and tell him I was sorry and in a calmer manner repeat what he was doing that he should not be doing :).

Na so I enter bed, my small oga was being fussy so I let him sleep with us. My mouth was too heavy and instead, we all drift off to sleep. I woke up at night and madam, wake your husband up and tell him sorry and sit him down for some midnight "oro pataki", I lie there contemplating how to begin and fall asleep again still trying to decide on the best approach.

Of course typical guy fashion today hubby wakes and we talk like nothing happened. He knows I'm sorry anyway and he knows it was his fault too so, I decide to let it go as well but I know I need to reclaim my apologizing skills. Will do after our next fight.



  1. U r preggers!!!!!!! Congrats.

    Lol. I know abt raking. Kai, na my middle name. Raker. Yesterday, i went off on husband too. He didn't make enough garri 4 d two of us 2 chop, & for some reason i found dat irritating. Dude no just get mouth, cos he saw dat i was just spoiling to fight if he gives me a reason. I apologise sha. I apologise all too well. Personally, i can't sleep or even sit next to someone if am feeling like i wronged them. Am very quick to apologise, unless i was trying to make a point. In which case, it becomes a matter of let's see who caves first. Thankfully, oga sir sabi apologise too. Some wen he ma wait 4 me to say am sorry & he no hear am, him go come talk sorry 4 annoying me unknowingly. Sweet man, bah? LOL. Him dey try small sha.

    Take care of ur small oga

  2. awww, make sure you let him know you love him oh! You know how hubbies can get =)

    Kisses to the small oga!


  3. cook his favorite food and say sorry...dont let it slide away like that

  4. Take care of small oga. I hope you get your apology skills back before the next fight. Apologize still.

  5. Please cook his fav food and apologize. It still comes easy for me but I try to forestall by not flying off. It's not easy sha. Take care of you all. You'll be fine.

  6. Congrats..

    na normal thing's best though to be quick on apologizing and never let resentment build..anyway,i'm sure he'll just take a look at know and shake his shake while thinking..'i sabi wetin de worry you'

    love to the lil man

    well,i'm sure he'll

  7. Eh ya it's all love

    Okay how come two out of six of the first six commenters said she should cook :). In short the old adage is true, the way to a man's heart is his belly.

    Oya Moji go carry your maggi kitchen apron and get cooking