Still on the love matter, a brother of mine had this babe whom he loved so dearly. Or let me say, he loved her as much as his playboy nature would allow. There were other girls and many prospects but from our conversations, even without him admitting it, she was this icon in his eyes.
I have to give it to her sha, she played hard to get very well. Even I was impressed. After she was "gotten" she never pretended the guy was indispensable. He would complain about her attitude and yet he still spoke about her with so much respect especially behind her back and always jumped when she ordered. She knew about his flings and kept giving him time to give them up.
I am ashamed to say it was my fault she kicked him out and refuses to let him back. He'd given me his mobile phone on the day I lost my baby. I had just noticed some spots of blood and I wanted to call my brother who's a doctor and ask him what to do. My friend had left his babe in his room and gone to keep another appointment with another girl of his. After I made the call, I climbed upstairs, gave the phone to his babe at home, called my fiance and left for the hospital.
While the cherished babe held the phone, she later told me another one of his other babes called. She answered the phone, told the caller who she was, and they must have gotten into a "you husband snatcher" word exchange with each girl feeling the other was the trespasser. I guess the call upset her cos she took it out on bobo when he got back home.
The guy has begged, and pleaded and sent people to plead with her to come back. She is adamant and has decided to get herself a more faithful guy (whom she has found, though I am not allowed to say). He still has hopes that they will get back together, frankly i dont think so. the lady and I are still very good friends but sincerely, I'm not one to give bad advise. On the other hand the guy has all but told me it was my fault and is acting like I am the one reponsible for bringing her back. This thing has gone on for five months now, and he's still trying to get her back. What I don't get is. . .if he loved her so much, why was he misbehaving in the first place?
First of all, I can comment without expressing my condolences for your loss. I hope all is well with your family and yourself.
ReplyDeleteSecond, it is a shame that our community encourages men to believe that they can have as many women as possible. The result is that some men fail to realize that if they are not selective about their partners and activities, that woman of great stature that they are looking for could run in the opposite direction once she discovers his true nature. And I know guys will say that they will not mess around once married, but I believe that the person you are before marriage, is who you are during it. A guy's 'player' ways set up a pattern to which he can/probably will return to at some point. That sort of insecurity would make most smart women wary.
Anyway, I wish your brother luck in his quest to woo his ex back, but he really should have been careful to not lose her in the first place.
I dont care about why he was misbehaving the fact is that it has caught up with him..now he will behave well with the next one..
ReplyDeleteDon't mind him jare it's not your fault,He is not even happy you left the phone..in that state of mind you were in I would have flung it out of the window...
How are you doing love?
so sorry about your loss....
ReplyDeleteyour bro needs to get a life... his acts only caught up with him... she was bound to find out anyway... or leave when she's had enough of his behaviour... aint your fault babes...
ma guy will never stop his ways jare...ehyah abau ur baby...God who did the first will organiseanother for you...
ReplyDeleteLike Solomon said it wouldn't be right to comment without first expressing my sincere and heartfelt condolences on your loss. I hope time will help make the loss easier to bear.
ReplyDeleteMy initial reaction to your post was to be defensive and complain that Infidelity isn't just a male problem as we have all heard horror stories of young women dating older married men for a money, sleeping around while married etc. But that would just be getting into the gender wars.
On relection however there does seem to be almost a societal 'tolerance' of male infidelity in Naij. The other thing I am concerned about though is why does the Nigerian female feel she needs to play hard to get even if she is interested in the dude?
sorry to hear about ur loss..U are blessed in His name. it's well.
ReplyDeleteas par the guy, was his philandering ways the only reason she left? not advocating just curious
Thanks for all of the condolences. It was just not meant to be at that time.
ReplyDelete@solomonsydelle and @charizad
I agree with you on that; once a player, always a player.
@afro
No be say I dey beg am, but still I can't help feeling sorry for him. I have never seen him so crazy about anyone.
Actually, he didn't know what happened that day and so, he just felt I was careless.
@tyger
I know, thanks a lot.
@moruntodun
I am not attacking men in anyway but, really do not understand why some of them do the things they do.
As for women playing hard to get, hmmm sounds like a blog-able topic. Its an image thing, tho. Some guys respect you more for it, others are indifferent and some are even put off by it.
@simi speaks
I think so, she was willing to live with a lot of his other faults, or so she says.
Dear, tanx sooooooooo much for stopping by again
ReplyDeleteU are in my prayers, God who did it before will do it again and continue to bless u and ur family....AMEN
As per ur broda, no mind am jare, him no serious,lol lets just hope he settles down quickly
just checking up on u AGAIN,
ReplyDeletehope all is well?
1st time on ur page
ReplyDeletejust checking in. Hope all is well.
ReplyDeletevery good question. has he learnt his lesson? if yes, then only time with persistence will bring her back
ReplyDeleteHmmm,..........some never get another chance others do.
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